I'm going to let you in on a little secret....The way in which women and men will attract love has changed. People of today are less interested in hooking up with someone because "they look good on paper", or are really attractive, and they're certainly less willing to "settle" just to have someone. If you happen to be in one of those types of relationships, you're probably experiencing many challenges, and planning your exit strategy.
Whether you've realized it or not, like technology you've evolved also, and your soul is longing to connect deeply with your ideal partner, because it's part of your soul's purpose. In her book Daring Greatly, Brene Brown writes, "we're hardwired for connection, it's what gives meaning and purpose to our lives." The absence of love, belonging and connection always leads to suffering.
Any wonder no matter how hard you try, the desire won't go away?
What I've come to know for sure after 10-plus years of helping men and women attract love (and everything else they desire) is: manifesting love in the 21st century is a journey into who you are becoming. I call it "being spiritually sexy, attracting love from the inside out".
Many women buy into the beliefs that "there aren't enough good men left", that they have to lose weight to attract someone, that they lack the confidence to attract a certain type of man, or they can't seem to find a man that "gets" them. Believe me, I feel you, I was once there, too. The truth is you're being called to awaken to who you truly are, first.
Up till now you've probably been attracting men from a place of lack, fear, neediness, loneliness and unworthiness, or perhaps you've stopped seeking one at all. Did you know that most women are not as emotionally available as they think they are? More about that in another post.....
That's why, when working with my clients to help them attract love, the primary focus isn't on the person they want to meet, it's on who they need to be, so they can "magnetically" attract that person from a place of clarity, confidence, self-worth, personal power and peace. Many a time they can become impatient that they're not connecting with that special someone fast enough, expecting "instant results". This is usually a sure sign that they're not ready and this way of being only serves in delaying the process.
The great news is the divine would never give you a desire without a greater purpose, and a way to manifest it. So, your deep wanting to connect with your life-partner and true love is valid. What you probably don't realize is this is way more about YOU, than them. What I can promise is, when you find the sweet spot within, your ideal mate will show up in the perfect way, and one that you least expect. Guaranteed!
And that, my friend, is what it'll take for you to manifest love in the 21st century.
To your outrageous success in love,